What do you think of when you think of some one being angry? As a society we seem to confuse certain sets of behaviors with emotions. I believe this problem stems from the reality that we can never experience another persons emotions. We can only interpret the other persons feelings through our interpretations of the behaviors they are demonstrating. An emotion is something you feel; not something you do. If some one is "acting angry", the key word is "acting", not "angry." They are demonstrating behaviors that they are choosing.
-Neil R. Jones MA, LMHC
 
 
Age does not breed wisdom. Humility and introspection do. Experience is only as valuable as what we learn from it. Everyone's experience is different and should not be judged solely on our own perceptions. In doing so we misjudge people either positively or negatively based on our own prejudices and projection. Hubris and narcissism are contraindicated in the pursuit of wisdom. 
-Neil R. Jones MA, LMHC

 
 
You can't do anything about what has already happened. You can only do the best with what you have left.
-Neil R. Jones MA, LMHC
 
 
Asking for help is not weakness. It is brave, and bravery is strength. There is always some anxiety (or fear) associated with the vulnerability implicit in asking for help. There is no shame in that. Bravery, or courage, is not "not being afraid." Bravery is doing it despite the fear.
-Neil R. Jones MA, LMHC
 
 
If you really "wanted" to do something that you are capable of, then you would do it. If you are not doing it, than what are your obstacles or resistances to doing so?
-Neil R. Jones MA, LMHC
 
 
Your behaviors are the only objective measure of your priorities.
-Neil R. Jones MA, LMHC
 
 
I find it interesting that a word with such a positive root word has developed such a negative connotation. The root word of "discipline" is "disciple." A disciple is a follower of a teaching. A discipline in another context is an area of study. Yet when we use the word discipline in regards to ourselves, or our children, it has become a synonymous with punishment. The idea that you need to emotionally beat yourself into compliance is counterproductive, in fact it usually has the opposite effect. In the common phrase, "I should have more self-discipline" I'm not sure which word is more self-destructive, "discipline" or "should." Although "should" is a thought for another day.
-Neil R. Jones MA, LMHC
 
 
Remember that it takes four to six weeks of consistent behavior to change a behavioral pattern. If you have been advised by your counselor to practice deep breathing and you are not doing the recommended ten minutes daily, then not only are you going against medical advise, you are delaying (if not sabotaging) your progress. Being non-compliant only hurts yourself.
-Neil R. Jones MA, LMHC